Fidelity in marriage and celibacy in singleness are expressions of our spirituality. Our spirituality and our sexuality are vitally connected. There is a mystery here; something more than meets the eye.

Scott Peck says the sexual and spiritual parts of our personalities lie so close together that it is hardly possible to arouse one without the other.

C.K. Chesterton put it this way, “Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is looking for God.”

Lewis Smedes put it this way, “Nobody can go to bed with someone and leave his soul parked outside.”

Back when I used to do a lot of marriage counseling, David Mace was my hero. David tells about a client who said,

“My husband and I always have prayer before we make love.”

“I was curious,” says David, “so I asked her what they said.” “Well,” she replies, “we relax in each other’s arms and my husband says, ‘For what we are about to receive, may the Lord make us truly thankful.'”

May their numbers increase! The vital connection between our spirituality and our sexuality is an essential link that the Church needs to help people to understand.

Father Joseph Dovari